Skip to main content

How To Be Confident This Summer (and all year!)

Hello everyone 
Summer is well underway and here in the UK, the weather has been reasonably bareable and with many of us also jetting off on holiday, the bikinis and revealing clothing are impending - a thought that for some is incredibly scary.  
I am aware that I don't really tell people much about myself on this blog for the sake of this post I thought I would give you a little background (very simply put): ( side note - I hope nobody feels this way but I am not playing the victim at all and am simply giving a miniature confidence biography, which I'm hoping will help people who feel like me) 
When I was little, I had so much confidence it was unbelievable - thinking back now I probably had too much, I think the only year I've ever been in trouble with the teacher at school was in reception (for non UK readers, that's the first year of school, aged 4/5) when this confidence was apparent. However, due to various things happening over the years from things people had said to me and the way I viewed myself along with some big things happening in my family, my confidence plummeted in year 5 (9/10) and again upon starting secondary school; my 'best' friends had gone to different  schools than I had and I spent the year eating alone in the diner, feeling like an unacceptable human being, which I know now that nobody should ever think. But at the time (and a couple of years after) I was convinced it was the way I looked. I was slightly chubby when I was younger but always ate healthily and was still a healthy BMI but would always tie my hair back in a ponytail and not wear make up like other girls and being one of the smarter kids didn't help much, neither was  getting braces a year or so before most people. The behaviour reflected at home also, I never spoke to my parents or brother and stayed in my bedroom  most of the time. It's fair to say that I felt more than a little sh*t. 
Since then, I have tried really hard to regain lost confidence and despite being someone with anxiety ( I'm not just throwing the term around, I've been to the doctors and things) I'm feeling better about myself more now than I have done for a long time, partly lifestyle and generally to do with attitude because regardless of what you do to change the way you look, if you aren't confident in yourself then I don't think you will ever be body confident and comfortable in your own skin; which is such a shame because you are so beautiful and so important and you should remind yourself of that every single day. 
Anyhow, let's get on with some things you can do to feel more confident and put on that bikini/ meet new people/ have a great time this summer!
1) Exercise. I'm NOT saying this so that you can change the way you look at all, you are perfectly fine. However, exercising makes you feel happy and I've found it really helps me with the way I view myself. Whether it's walking thebdog, playing tennis with a friend or jogging, every little helps. 
2) In the same way, eat well. Particularly in the summer, I find there is nothing yummier than a fresh salad. Simply eating foods that boost your energy rather than making you feel sluggish improves your mood and health. Don't worry about cutting out carbs, eating less than 500 calories per day or living on meal supplements, there are so many amazing dishes you can create that taste incredible and are brilliant for your health. By looking after your body, you feel far happier and your confidence gets a boost as well as your health. But don't forget to treat yourself (remember the food triangles lectured in primary school? Actually use that information) p.s the 'Yummly' app is brilliant for recipes! 
3) Spend time on you. I generally stop working between 7 and 8 o'clock to unwind for bed. Over the past year, I've been really getting in to a daily 'pamper' routine (which takes 5 minutes) but to know I've spent time making sure all of my make up is off and moisturising etc. while maybe listening to the radio or catching up on a TV series means that I wake up feeling as though I look a bit more presentable. In the same way, find skincare and make up products you love as it will make you feel a little nicer every time you use them. 
4) Become an actor. I don't mean change who you are or pretend to be someone you're not but if I'm ever feeling under confident, I'll act like I'm feeling amazing and don't have a care in the world (I tend to do this when I'm wearing shorts or bikinis etc., I don't like my legs at all but if I pretend I feel like I'm killin' it, it tends to work). 
5) Speak to someone about how you feel. You'll be surprised how common the feeling is and together you can talk about each other's insecurities. Surround yourself with people who increase your confidence, not decrease it. Sometimes it's okay to be a little selfish. 
6) Take opportunities. Keep a little money box to keep odd coins etc. in and accept invitations to to things rather than sitting indoors. 
7) The most important yet most clichéd thing I will write. Try your hardest to not care what people think of you. Life is really too short. Anyone judging you is not worth your time and most of the time nobody will notice the things you feel insecure about. 
If this article helps one person even a teeny tiny little bit then I'll be extremely happy. 
Have a great day! 
Elle xxx


Popular posts from this blog

Hairspray for Fringes - VO5 Ultimate Hold vs. Bed Head Masterpiece

This post is on yet another somewhat mundane issue - hairspray. There are so many brands to chose from and so many prices too! After going on holiday and forgetting hairspray (I have a fringe so use it daily to stop it looking funny) I picked up some VO5 Ultimate Hold as my usual Bed Head Masterpiece is quite pricey. So I thought I would put them to the test in a battle of skinted vs. minted.

Value for money: The Bed Head Masterpiece is considerably more at RRP £14.95 and has 60 ml less product than the Ultimate Hold (£3.29). However, one can of Masterpiece has now lasted me four months as you hardly have to use any. Also, it is much cheaper online at around £7.00. When I use the VO5 hairspray, I find I have to use a lot more for the same hold which makes the hair look like straw. However, you could buy many more cans of the VO5 for the price. 

Hold: The Bed Head is brilliant. It keeps my fringe in place even when I walk to school in the wind and unless the weather is appalling, my hair…

Somehow I'm Going to Oxford....

This blog post is a little (a lot) on the surreal side.

If you follow my on Instagram you may already know this but if not, I thought I'd just add a quick note on here. I am about to officially become a first year Law student at the University of Oxford!

I'll probably post a little bit more about this at another time but for now, I thought I'd just briefly highlight the process.

Flashback to September 2016. I'd just started A Level and for the past few years, Durham had been at the top of my list for university, followed by Bristol. I had never in my life even considered applying to Oxford or Cambridge. At all.

My head of Sixth Form came and spoke to me and said that a student from Cambridge was coming in to school to speak to students about studying at Oxbridge and he thought I should go. I said I really wasn't interested; I didn't know anything about the universities, I was 100% sure I wasn't smart enough, posh enough or just good enough to even consider …

Challenging a Holy Grail

It's probably a bit strange that my first blog post in a while is a foundation/makeup thing. It really has been a while since I've done anything like this because, let's be honest, anybody reading this is likely 100x more experienced and knowledgable about makeup than I am after spending the year rarely wearing it.

However, when I look online, I struggle to find foundation recommendations for people with similar skin to mine so I thought this might be of some use.

I have very fair skin so struggle to find anything from high street makeup brands (and high end most of the time) that's the right shade as my skin, despite being pale, doesn't particularly have pink undertones, which most foundations at the lighter end of the shade range tend to have.

The only foundation that I tend to buy other than the MAC Studio Fix fluid in NW10 (a tad too dark but good for going out) is the Revlon Colorstay Normal/Dry in 110 Ivory. When I first started to use this foundation, I used…